People:
NotesFromYourTherapist is an instagram account written by Allyson Dinneen that brings me great peace with her posts about her own experiences and wow how relatable so many are.
Tina Gilbertson-her focus talks to us in a compassionate way while giving some insight into what our kids might be thinking while we take stock of our responsibility and health.
The Little Shaman-talks about narcissism, there are threads of this through my experience with this situation.
Nate Postlethwait-one of the best out there talking about childhood trauma and offering help to all of us.
Joshua Coleman-focused on parents of adult childrenwho choose to estrange, he experienced it with his daughter.
Books:
It didn’t start with you (cuz two parents did this) Mark Wolynn focused on generational trauma.
Constructive Wallowing Tina Gilbertson a lovely way to give yourself the space to grieve and, yes, wallow constructively.
Healing Your Heart and Rediscovering Your True Self After Toxic Relationships and Emotional Abuse Jackson Mackenzie is something very beneficial to me as you've read my experiences settling for marrying a violent domestic abuser.
Black Sheep the Hidden Benefits of Being Bad Richard Stephens if you have experienced gaslighting or feel you might be the only person publicly calling out the family dysfunction this one is for you.
The mother wound Amani Haydar a classic that shows us both the deeply toxic ways women are pathologized in this culture and how we sometimes eat our own to stay in status quo sadly.
The point is there are so many people writing about estrangement in this moment in history and there will be something in each of the items I listed for you and lots you will not relate to. You get to choose, that’s the beauty of all of this in a weird way because we are constantly getting the message we don’t understand/deserve/belong where we want or need to be.
Here’s to your healing heart. Add your list of things that have helped you in the comments.
Thanks for reading, talk to you soon.