You may have found this post through my new QR codes. Welcome. It’s long past time to stop domestic violence. I talk about my experience here and how heart wrenching it is to meet young women who experience it today. 2024. It has to stop.
Category: Essay
Focus
Focus. It’s something I haven’t had for years. My mind could not settle into staying with a task or a project or any long-term thing for so long. So now I’m learning to focus again.
Estrangement?
One of the best questions my therapist has asked me to date is: “Are you certain you’re estranged?” when I casually told her I’m estranged from most of my family. I have not been in touch with most of my family for most of my life.
Posts of Healing: Four Months Post RTHR
Texting with a friend this morning as I sit on the patio watching this small flock of six red star chickens who are growing so fast, after giving carrots and apples to the horses and donkeys on the other side of the fence I told her: this is a soothing I forgot existed in the world.
Compassion Callouses
I’ve heard of healthcare providers having compassion fatigue. I can completely understand it. Us civilians can find it exhausting to stay compassionate with people. Made me understand though that it’s true too for people who’ve been traumatized and abused and later when they talk about things, not heard, there can grow a kind of compassion…
Patton Oswalt Loves Dave Chappelle. So What?
People who criticize Patton for his friendships probably need to look at their circle of friends
Is Hannah Gadsby’s Rage Really The Problem?
Jeff Garlin decided Hannah Gadsby should voluntarily cut off her own income before she was allowed to criticize Ted Sarandos and Netflix but says men who do horrible things don’t deserve to lose their money. Mike Birbiglia and Hasan Minhaj show us perfect examples of what girls hear from their dads who don’t understand that their daughters hear them long before they go out into the ruthless world of men.
Your Feet Upon The Ground
It’s November 5th. All of the holidays will approach much faster than some of us are ready for. *Raises hand, nods* “May your past be the sound of your feet upon the ground” is a line from the song Carry On by Fun. The stanza in context is: “If you’re lost and alone, or you’re…
Slow Growing & Still Going Through
It’s been years of slow growing. I’m still in it, still going through. Here’s to us late bloomers.
It’s Weird Figuring Out What You Want To Be When You’re 60
My parents were mostly good about keeping us alive and involved in things and going on a few of the obligatory family vacations white lower middle class families go on – camping, visits to a friend’s lake house, road trips to visit family they barely wanted to be around. But in my family there was zero introduction to the world as someone who would live an independent life, have dreams, need to plan a life or grow in maturity.