Yet I hope. For reconciliation. For a new, better way of relating to one another. For a genuine knowing of one another. Yes. Even in this very very dark time of estrangement.
Month: December 2024
The Alienated Grandparent’s Guide To Living Well
This alienated grandparent’s guide to living well holds three things to tuck into your tool belt for the holidays and, well, every day. These suggestions for you are going to sound simplistic and you might just roll your eyes but hang in with me through this important activity.
Two Non Expert Theories On Adult Children Being Abusive Substack latest
The reality of all of this anger is so very complex. It has taken me into my 60s to reconcile so many things from my childhood, being married to an abuser, figuring out my part in all of my relationships failed or succeeding. Why would I expect my estranged adult child to reconcile their pain any faster?
In Defense Of The Indefensible (Latest Substack)
I don’t expect my kids to respect me simply because I am their mom. I do expect them to be civil with me because we are human beings and adults. And don’t get me wrong, I love a well placed curse. In conversation, heated or not. LOVE them. The harm comes when it turns into “you’re a”. Those are the non reversible stabs in need of emergency stitching but often left to bleed out.
Read My Contributor Article For Healing & CPTSD Magazine
Everything from how to have healthy fights, manage stress, resolve conflict and preserve relationships may have been lacking in the childhood or environment of parents of adult estranged children. Without learning those crucial skills, we brought them into our relationships and painted them on our kids.