November 2024 – Shards & Words

For My Grands

Posted on November 28, 2024June 20, 2025 by shardswords

Today will be really hard for so many of us. I will be grieving, if you are too I hope you don’t mind me sharing something I am doing that helps me (most of the time). Lots of us talk about our wills or how we’re going to distribute things when we pass away. I came across something called “grandparents academy” a couple years ago. It’s for all grandparent situations not only alienated; but I was drawn to the section of it where it offers ideas on how we as alienated grands can do things while we don’t have access to our grandchildren. (I don’t pay for any of their memberships, I like their ideas)

When Good Enough Is Not

Posted on November 25, 2024June 17, 2025 by shardswords

I write to you while in it, this epidemic of adult children estranging themselves from their parents.

When You Understand Their Choice To Estrange

Posted on November 25, 2024June 17, 2025 by shardswords

We are taught some of the worst beliefs in dysfunctional families of origin by some of the most hurt people on the planet and we expect them to get everything right.

The Silence Of White American Mothers

Posted on November 10, 2024January 4, 2025 by shardswords

I’m mourning collectively with half the country and am terrified for the people who now have to make plans of custody for their own children adopted or birthed and loved families who may become targets, or those who may have to plan for the deportation of their family members who have been here for ages and have grown families and communities, or make a safety plan while they figure out if their coworker or own family member will betray them to the homophobic american version of the nazi special commission the orange monster has in mind, and for the millions of girls, women and people with uteruses who will be assaulted with words weapons and denial of care. The echoes of nazi germany being denied by the other half of the country.